Fact or Fantasy
Men are simple creatures! Or are they?
I am sure that most women will think men to be as simple as women are complex. Whether that is true, or not, I do not know, but I do know that my fellow man never ceases to surprise by the wide variations in his thinking and is logic.
How many men, married or not, fantacise in privacy of their dreams about other men?
And yet try to lead normal lives. And because they have not done anything about it, they consider themselves to be straight, with absolutely no possibility of them being gay or bisexual. Some go slightly further than just fantasy alone......
How many men, married or not, from time to time dabble in a bit of sex with another man?
This may not be more than something mutual in the park, the public toilets or some other anonymous and convenient spot. But those same men may still consider themselves to be straight! Why? Because they may not have kissed another man (they probably don't like the idea anyway), nor have they had much contact with them, or known their name, or anything about them. And they have been able to go home afterwards assuring themselves that they are "normal", and that it was something that, if it did happen, can be forgotten quickly.
How many "straight" men enjoy the company of gay men?
After all, the company of gay men can be less threatening, it can be fun, so long as the straight man can go home afterwards untouched, and continue to think of himself as being straight. After all, nothing of a sexual nature has happened to make them think otherwise. There are some men who can go a step further and enter into something similar to a Closed Loop Relationship where the relationship is totally platonic. Are they gay, bisexual or straight?
So is it possible to have a relationship with another man, and yet still be straight?
It depends on the way that the men concerned think of it, and perhaps how far they go. If it is sexual, perhaps not. But if it is love without the sex? After all, what is a relationship, and does it have to be sexual? Taking the normal father / son relationship, the answer to that question has to be "No". Wives and girlfriends often ask the question - Is He Gay? This is the subject of another page. But many men, despite their fantasies and even deeds, may not be able to accept that they are anything other than straight. It is often best not to come to conclusions too hastily about their sexuality. Ask them the question, and as likely or not, they will deny it. And that is what many will genuinely believe. Some may be straight, some may be less so.