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The pages of this site, first started around the Fall of 1999, are principally for men and women who are gay, lesbian or bisexual and married to (or in a relationship with) someone of the opposite sex, and for their spouses, partners or girlfriends / boyfriends to help them to understand what might be going on, typically same sex attractions and mixed orientation relationships or marriage. If you have time and have not already done so, visit the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid questionnaire - click on Questionnaire Results to look at it, or click on Questionnaire Entries to respond to it - see the links above ............ If you request a copy of your Klein questionnaire response, this may take up to one week and possibly longer, depending on the demands on the author................ Another addition to this site is the introduction of cellphone (mobile phone) friendly pages which can be accessed from the top of this home page ......... Visitors to this site may not appreciate that this is a resource site only ...... it is not a site where you can communicate directly with others, with the exception of the author ............ if you need to compare notes with other people in the same situation, please refer to the links page, which may be able to help you ........................ It has been decided to extend the present questionnaires for an indefinite period............This is because responses are still coming and also, unexpected feedback shows that people find the questionnaires helpful, even "life saving" when thinking about their current situations or when in crisis.................
How often has it been said ...... "They can't be gay, they are married!"? ...... You would be surprised! Or would you?
The chances are that if you are reading this page, you are gay, lesbian or bisexual and possibly married also, or in a relationship with such a person. If the latter, the chances are that you are seeking to answer questions like "Is my husband gay or bisexual?" or "Is my wife a lesbian?" No one knows the statistics of marriages where one partner or the other is gay, but it is suspected that it happens far more frequently than society would lead us to believe. In the majority of cases, the straight spouse might be totally unaware of the true sexuality of their partner. When and if they discover the whole truth, it can be devastating, often leading to the break up of the marriage. But in some cases, particularly where the relationship between spouses is strong, the marriage can survive, although it is believed that only about 20 or 25% do survive which makes depressing reading. There are marriages where one partner knew about the sexuality of the other partner before marriage took place. Whereas the partners have been more honest with each other, that is not to say that the marriage will be any more successful than ones where the partners have been less honest with each other. These pages are to enable those involved to realize that they are not freaks or in a freak situation. They are to enable them to realize that they are not alone. They are to help them to come to terms with where they are......
This is more of an information site than a discussion site. Links to discussion sites can be found on the links page. You can approach the author of the site who will correspond with you in the strictest confidence through the Contact page. If you are visiting for the first time or have not filled in at least two of the Questionnaires, why not try them by clicking here. Apart from contributing to what is turning into valuable research, you may find that filling them in can be helpful to you also, in the collecting of your thoughts, regardless of your sex or sexuality. Whereas some of the pages are written specifically for men who are gay or women who are the straight spouse, there is much evidence to suggest (from the questionnaires associated with these pages) that the difference between the behaviour of the sexes is not always so pronounced as generally thought. So, you may be able to read for "gay man", "lesbian woman" and vice versa in many instances.

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