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The pages of this site, first started around the Fall of 1999, are principally for men and women who are gay, lesbian or bisexual and married to (or in a relationship with) someone of the opposite sex. They are also for their spouses, partners or girlfriends / boy friends, to help them understand what might be going on. These are typically same sex attractions and mixed orientation relationships or marriage.

Men about themselves, or their women about the men

Page under construction

These Results summarise responses from Men about Themselves, and from Women about their Men

Summary of Returns Feb 2008The chart presents a summary of returns at 8th February 2008, showing the numbers of returns for each Kinsey number (assessed now), as returned by men, and by women over the survey period from 30th September 2005.

The spectrum of Kinsey numbers from the responses is important as it shows a bias towards the gay end - this is to be expected as more people with gay tendencies (or their spouses) are likely to search for and discover this website and to respond to the questionnaires.

Although we have barely sufficient responses across the entire spectrum of the Kinsey Scale, we are reviewing the results for each Kinsey number to determine whether there are significant differences in situation and behaviour.

Kinsey estimated that 46% of the male population had engaged in both heterosexual and homosexual activities, or "reacted to" persons of both sexes, in the course of their adult lives. 11.6% of white males (ages 20-35) were given a rating of 3 on the Kinsey Scale.

Reviewing the results up to 8th February 2008, there were 182 men at a rating of 3 out of the 1285 who declared their Kinsey number (14%). There were 95 women out of 759 who declared their husband's/partner's rating at 3 (13%). These compare reasonably closely with the Kinsey findings.

Where are they from?

Before anyone panics, we have no means of knowing who people are who have contributed to the questionnaires, but we do have an indication of their approximate whereabouts in the world in some cases. These have been presented as percentages of the total (973) for men about themselves (as of 22nd June 2007) and of the total (574) for women about their men:

Men about themselves: Women about their men:
  • United States - 68.7%
  • United Kingdom - 16.5%
  • Canada - 4.7%
  • Australia - 3.3%
  • Germany - 0.5%
  • New Zealand - 0.5%
  • South Africa - 0.5%
  • Netherlands - 0.4%
  • France - 0.4%
  • India - 0.4%
  • United Arab Emirates - 0.3%
  • United States - 78.9%
  • United Kingdom - 7.7%
  • Canada - 4.7%
  • Australia - 4.0%
  • India - 0.9%
  • Ireland - 0.5%
  • New Zealand - 0.5%
  • France - 0.4%
  • Philippines - 0.4%

Other contributions have been received from Algeria, Belgium, Brazil, China, Costa Rica, Greece, Grenada, Hong Kong, Italy, Jamaica, Japan, Lebanon, Malaysia, Mexico, Namibia, Nigeria, Norway, Portugal, Romania, Singapore, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, Uganda, Uruguay and Venezuela.

It can be seen from the above that at least two thirds are the contributors are from the United States, followed by the United Kingdom, Canada and Australia. However contributions have been received from more than 30 different countries.

Discussion

   
Men's Responses about Themselves Women's Responses about Their men

Significant numbers of responses under each Kinsey number have been achieved. Feelings / emotions have yet to be reviewed.

  • All Kinsey numbers are represented but the majority are 4s and 5s, the 5s hitting the highest score.
  • All Kinsey numbers are represented but the majority are 5s and 6s, the 6s hitting the highest score.

These results suggest that the women view their husbands / partners as being further up the Kinsey scale than the men.

In the men's responses, an additional number has been included (7) which is not on the original Kinsey scale. This was defined as "None of these". Several men have classified themselves as 7. There could be several reasons for this but some of the likely ones are:

  • They do not consider themselves to fit within the scale
  • They have not as yet come to terms with their sexuality or do not wish to accept their actual sexuality.

The 7s represent a small percentage of the overall return (2%).

Response Ranges in Age

Men's ages range from 18 - 90 distributed as follows:

  • 18 - 29 years - 82 (7.86%)
  • 30 - 39 years - 230 (22.05%)
  • 40 - 49 years - 356 (34.13%)
  • 50 - 59 years - 261 (25.02%)
  • 60 - 69 years - 92 (8.82%)
  • 70 - 79 years - 19 (1.82%)
  • 80 - 89 years - 2 (0.19%)
  • 90 - 99 years - 1 (0.10%)

Declared by 1043 men

Women's ages range from 18 - 72 distributed as follows:

  • 18 - 29 years - 82 (13.18%)
  • 30 - 39 years - 172 (27.65%)
  • 40 - 49 years - 239 (38.42%)
  • 50 - 59 years - 109 (17.52%)
  • 60 - 69 years - 17 (2.73%)
  • 70 - 79 years - 3 (0.48%)
  • 80 - 89 years - 0 (0%)

Declared by 622 women

Men's ages range from 19 - 75 distributed as follows:

  • 18 - 29 years - 57 (9.28%)
  • 30 - 39 years - 165 (26.87%)
  • 40 - 49 years - 231 (37.62%)
  • 50 - 59 years - 120 (19.54%)
  • 60 - 69 years - 37 (6.03%)
  • 70 - 79 years - 4 (0.65%)
  • 80 - 89 years - 0 (0%)

Declared by 614 women

Age RangeThis chart shows the age ranges graphically.

The age range to have the greatest number of responses is that from 40 - 49 years, as reported by both men and women.

Speculating, this may be because 40 - 49 years is the period when problems in many marriages start to come to the surface, 10 to 20 years after the start of a marriage.

 


Their Marital Status

Men's responses:

  • Unmarried - 41 (3.85%)
  • Married - 846 (79.51%)
  • Separated - 59 (5.55%)
  • Divorced - 63 (5.92%)
  • Widowed - 19 (1.79%)
  • Other - 33 (3.10%) - probably in the process of separating or divorce, or they just do not feel that they are any longer married
  • Not declared - 3 (0.28%)
  • Total -1064

Women's responses:

  • Unmarried - 29 (4.62%)
  • Married - 422 (67.20%)
  • Separated - 79 (12.58%)
  • Divorced - 65 (10.35%)
  • Widowed - 6 (0.96%)
  • Other - 26 (4.14%) - probably in the process of separating or divorce
  • Not declared - 1 (0.16%)
  • Total - 628

As might be expected, the largest group represented here is that which is married.

   

Page still to be completed

Whereas for the most part, these pages are written around the Married Gay male, many of them can be read, substituting "female" for "male", and vice versa.

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