Relationships
The Grass is Always Greener on the other side?
For many of us Married Gays who have come to terms with our sexuality, it is an initial reaction to try to find a relationship with someone of our own sex, even though we are already in one with our spouse. After all, wouldn't it be nice to be living with someone of our own sex? Wouldn't it be nice to wake up in the mornings and find them there?
Or would it?
We should stop and think, before launching off to search for the ideal mate when we have been living already in a relationship with someone, albeit our spouse, for a number of years. What makes a same sex relationship any better? There is no particular reason why it should be any better. A relationship is not necessarily to do with sexuality.
Just because you yearn for a relationship with someone of your own sex does not mean that it will be any better or easier than the relationship which you may already be enjoying with your spouse, and indeed, it could be a great deal worse. Finding a new partner, whether male or female, can be a risky business.
Sometimes it is better if you can to stick with who you know rather than take the plunge. If a marriage 'ain't broke', why try to fix it?
But, as a correspondent pointed out to me, it is not always about what is right or easier, life is about learning to honour yourself. If that means that having come out to your spouse, you must move on, then so be it. Nothing of any value in life is easy.
As my correspondent said, "It's about HONOURING WHO YOU ARE! and letting NO ONE tell you WHAT and WHO you are is bad!"