These Results summarise responses from Men about Themselves, and from Women about their Men

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The chart presents a summary of returns at 8th February 2008, showing the numbers of returns for each Kinsey number (assessed now), as returned by men, and by women over the survey period from 30th September 2005.

Pass the cursor over the chart and you will get the number of returns approximately a year earlier.

If you have not already filled in your Questionnaire, it is not too late! Just go to the Questionnaire entry pages - see the top of this page. The questionnaires are open to all men and all women regardless of sexuality. The responses are directed towards knowledge of both the male and the female.

The spectrum of Kinsey numbers from the responses is important as it shows a bias towards the gay end - this is to be expected as more people with gay tendencies (or their spouses) are likely to search for and discover this website and to respond to the questionnaires. Although we have barely sufficient responses across the entire spectrum of the Kinsey Scale, we are reviewing the results for each Kinsey number to determine whether there are significant differences in situation and behaviour.

Kinsey estimated that 46% of the male population had engaged in both heterosexual and homosexual activities, or "reacted to" persons of both sexes, in the course of their adult lives. 11.6% of white males (ages 20-35) were given a rating of 3 on the Kinsey Scale.

Reviewing the results up to 8th February 2008, there were 182 men at a rating of 3 out of the 1285 who declared their Kinsey number (14%). There were 95 women out of 759 who declared their husband's/partner's rating at 3 (13%). These compare reasonably closely with the Kinsey findings.

Where are they from?

Before anyone panics, we have no means of knowing who people are who have contributed to the questionnaires, but we do have an indication of their approximate whereabouts in the world in some cases. These have been presented as percentages of the total (973) for men about themselves (as of 22nd June 2007) and of the total (574) for women about their men:

Other contributions have been received from Algeria, Belgium, Brazil, China, Costa Rica, Greece, Grenada, Hong Kong,  Italy, Jamaica, Japan, Lebanon, Malaysia, Mexico, Namibia, Nigeria, Norway, Portugal, Romania, Singapore, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, Uganda, Uruguay and Venezuela.

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Numbers of Responses

Response Ranges in Age

Their Marital Status

Why did they marry?

His Girlfriends and Discovery of Sexuality and Age at Marriage

Her Boyfriends and His and Her Ages at Marriage, Happiness and Love

Her knowledge of His Sexuality before Marriage

Is She Happy?

About His Sexuality

His Sexuality Change

Could He love a Man?

His Extra Marital Activity

Safe Sex

Histories

The Future

Men's responses about Themselves

Women's responses about their Men

These results suggest that the women view their husbands / partners as being further up the Kinsey scale than the men.

Declared by 1043 men

Declared by 622 women

Declared by 614 women

This chart shows the age ranges graphically.

The age range to have the greatest number of responses is that from 40 - 49 years, as reported by both men and women.

Speculating, this may be because 40 - 49 years is the period when problems in many marriages start to come to the surface, 10 to 20 years after the start of a marriage.

Men's responses:

Women's responses:

As might be expected, the largest group represented here is that which is married.

Men's responses (out of 1065 responses):

Women's responses (out of 628 responses):

The majority of men and women who have responded so far have married for love, with "best friend" coming second. A greater percentage of women married for love than men. A greater percentage of men married their best friend, than women. 17% of men and 7% of women married because they did not want to be alone. About 11% of men wanted to hide their sexuality.

The following Chart shows the men's reasons for marrying, percentages split according to Kinsey number:

Pass the cursor over the chart and you will get an earlier result for 2nd April 2006

The following Chart shows the women's reasons for marrying, percentages split according to their husband's Kinsey number now:

Pass the cursor over the chart and you will get an earlier result for 2nd April 2006

As with the men's responses, the women's responses under Kinsey number 0 is not very significant, and therefore the reliability of these results is low.

An overview of the reasons why men and women marry, regardless of the man's sexuality, suggests that "Love" is by far the most significant ingredient in marriage. "Best friend" features second, but is significantly less, other than for men at Kinsey 4 and above when it becomes more significant, but never overtakes "Love".

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The following is a summary of the responses for women who are married, separated, divorced or widowed, by her husband's Kinsey number:

New questions were introduced into the Women's Questionnaire on 16th February 2006 concerning a wife's knowledge of her husband's sexuality and how that knowledge might have affected her decision to marry. For this section of the review, only responses on or after 16th February 2006 have been considered.

The responses suggest that over 65% of wives, having knowledge of their husband's gay or bisexuality before marriage, would not have married him. Only 16% would have definitely done so. Responses to expectations in sexuality change with marriage are inconclusive and it is suspect that for the majority, no consideration would have been given to this. Only 11% thought that their husbands might change.

The following chart shows answers to the question "Is she happy?" for each of the husband's Kinsey numbers now:

Pass the cursor over the chart and you will get the earlier result for 30th January 2006

This suggests that no more than 50% of the women responding to the Questionnaire were happy, but that for higher Kinsey numbers, there is a progressive decline in happiness and an increasing unhappiness. For lower Kinsey numbers, there are probably too few responses to be significant.

Does his wife know? (278 with current married status)

Is she aware of his full